Because I was alone i started a lolita community in Portugal. I gave it my all, my everything, years of my life, all my attention and a chunk of my heart. I didn't expect any love back but I did expect it to have results and to see the community grow fast and steady with people who care about the fashion and not just about themselves.
Then I even decided to slowly open a store so that Portuguese lolita lovers (their n.1 complaint was that it was "hard to buy online" and that "their parents didn't approve of online shopping") could finally start wearing lolita and building their wardrobes.
I came to the conclusion that that's not how things work. That the world does not smile at you when you make an effort to make it smile and now I am finally ready to stop.
I have slowly started living lolita for myself and I have to admit it feels a lot nicer. No pressure, no incredibly hard to handle disappointment levels (and later, already taking place) no money shortage.
Yes yes, some of you had told me this years ago (literally) but you know what they say, you have to make those mistakes yourself before you learn.
So today's message is: Do it for you.
With love,
J
Seriously,I think it's the best choice.Pityfully,only some people deserves that effort
ResponderEliminarI'm very grateful to you for starting the community, and I value all your efforts and I understand you wanting to stop all your troubles and living just for yourself, as you say above.
ResponderEliminarI think you've done a lot, you deserve some rest :)
You're awesome <3
I don't know why you aren't Moderator of the EGL PT any more because I was absent for some time and when I got back you have already left.
ResponderEliminarBut for this to happen I thought that you should have strong motives.
As you know, I have only been at EGL PT for about one year, but I always saw and recognize your efforts.
There were always been and always be haters no matter what. But I didn't expect to see some troubles in the community itself.
I think it is time for you to start caring just about yourself : )
You have done much <3
I have reached to the same conclusion after almost three years in lolita. Live it to yourself, and do everything you like. It´s the only way to avoid haters and to enjoy it at its full.
ResponderEliminarYou will always have your loyal friends around you, and you don´t have the pressure to take part in everything involving the portuguese community.
And you will keep also all the online friends (we love hearing from you!)
I think that I understand you.
ResponderEliminarA few days ago, I have a little "explosion" on LeN (lolita en nuncaxamais) forum. Curiously, it started caused by the O Porto visit. I think that you did a nice thing coming here and I really want to give you back. I tried to organize the visit, but people just not say anything (although the say yes when you came here). And then I have to listen things like "nothing is organize or nobody wants to do anything, etc". what?? I´m sick of you, guys! >< And this is only a example.
I like participating in lolita movement, because that let me to know some nice people and live beatifull moments, and I like helping some people too. But sometimes... I think that over time, I need more time for living it just to me and in my way.
Kisses.
PD: I was talking with darkmaid and we have to postpone it, but the O Porto visit is active ^^
I'll always be grateful for the amount of love and effort you've always put into the community, and many times I've also voiced my worries about the emotional toll that it took on you. I was really sad to hear you had stepped down from EGL moderation, but I definitely feel like it's worth it, if you are happier now.
ResponderEliminarI'm so very glad and so very proud to read this, anything and everything that we do in life should be for the passion of it, it always tastes better that way <3